tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5916126436692978523.post3839913633096128481..comments2023-05-17T00:54:59.914-07:00Comments on Survive, Live, Thrive: Back to School Co-parenting BluesJane Thrivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06937944153368197294noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5916126436692978523.post-57739086214817380732017-08-07T10:25:26.076-07:002017-08-07T10:25:26.076-07:00Lisa, your comment *is* super helpful. It helps m...Lisa, your comment *is* super helpful. It helps me to step back and understand the bigger picture. And while it makes me super sad about the "twisted need" it is comforting to know we aren't alone. :( :( :( Love and hugs to you!Jane Thrivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06937944153368197294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5916126436692978523.post-34737891252624093432017-08-04T18:31:58.055-07:002017-08-04T18:31:58.055-07:00Ahh...the back to school BS. So fun every year. So...Ahh...the back to school BS. So fun every year. So. Much. Fun.<br /><br />Hugs sweetie.LIVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13524453327563312809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5916126436692978523.post-42147648634097119142017-08-04T17:52:19.626-07:002017-08-04T17:52:19.626-07:00It's his constant need to control. As well, hi...It's his constant need to control. As well, his personality type doesn't do rejection. The divorce will always be a rejection and he will always seek compensation for that through the kids. I have learned this the hard way (there is no easy way). The constant need for the control over the children and their affection will be a lifelong issue. Gosh, I don't think my comment is helpful and I apologize for that. My kids are in their 20's and I still see and feel the consistent need for their father to have his hand in everything they do...it isn't healthy---it just is. It's up to them to draw a boundary. As for DD1 and DD2, it will take many years for them to understand this twisted need in their father. All you can do is what you do best---love them with all your heart. Be there for them when they're confused and support them in everything including their relationship with their dad (you're already getting an A+!!) It's so hard though. Sorry this is so long. Lisa Thomsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05310475781785711620noreply@blogger.com