I woke up today for the first time in days anxiety free. I don't know if it's because it's a Friday after a long and stressful week, or because I know my babies will be home soon (they are away on summer vacation time with dad), or if I'm excited for a new school year for big sister and baby sister at pre school...
Maybe that innate sunny part of my soul is showing itself again. Throughout the two years of litigation--I never stooped, I never lied, I never slung mud. I kept on the path of the high road, so that I could be confident in the end that I didn't play dirty and somehow survived. I was hopeful that my sunny nature would remain intact. And it has for the most part. A bit worn for the wear. No, totally battered and run over and over and over. I'm sure there's still tire treads hanging about. But somehow, I'm hopeful today, and can feel it shining.
As if a divorce wasn't stressful enough, I ended up applying for and getting a new job. Which I'm not so sure I love. I do like it. It's starting all over again after building years of credibility with my old job. But I've always been a proponent of when a door opens...walk through it. I thought it was a conjunction of forces...a new life, a new profession, a new way of living. I supposed it will take a few more months to settle in, maybe a year. Do I regret leaving the security of my old job? A little. I miss the familiar faces, I feel like I was just making real headway with interdepartmental projects, impacting access to justice for the state in subtle ways that made me feel proud. But hopefully I can do the same here, once I build new relationships. Get to know people. Do the work that I know that I can do.
The last week or so I've been struggling with the thought that maybe I made a mistake. Yes this job offers much more financial security in the present/long run. I have two little hearts to take care of and support for the next 19 years or so, lol. It seemed like a no-brainer.
Yesterday, I stopped by to drop something off with my former supervisees (in my field, the community is very small here, so everyone keeps in touch and has a collegial relationship with one another), and was hit with a giant wave of nostalgia, i still feel the remnants washing about my feed.
Yet, deep inside, I know, I did the right thing to accept my new job. Maybe one day my path will take me somewhere else (back there? a different direction altogether?), but for now, I will just keep swimming forward.
p.s. the crazies did come last week a lot, though, i made a mistake! how do i know if the door opened for me to go through it? i walked through a bunch of doors in my life before and ended up in hell and a hand basket. how do i trust this? and i calmed myself down with this: we do the best that we can in the circumstances we find ourselves in, making choices with the information at hand, and that is all that we can do. be happy in that you are being true to yourself and with the best interests of your little hearts in mind.