at the end of a long legal battle, i can tell you that all you can do is speak the truth. judges...i think they've seen it all. it's hard to realize it, when you see that the future and safety of your children are at stake, but the best thing to do is to trust the process. be a broken record. repeat your truth. remain calm.
of course you might want to scream and cry and sob and tear your hair out. especially if you have an ex who is abusive and especially, especially, if you have a "secret abuser" on your hands--one who abuses behind closed doors.
just remember, the people who love you, your children, your family, your friends, your colleagues...they believe you. and the other thing about this is--it doesn't matter who believes you. you know what happened. you know it happened. you know the dangers.
don't give up. at the end of the day, the truth will prevail. no matter the dirt and the poop that is thrown at you. hold your head high. keep your heart and your dignity in tact. just because someone else might be spreading lies about you, does not mean you have to stoop to their level.
stand in your truth. the fear will come and go, because that is natural. hold onto your truth, because it is, at the end of the day, the truth.
and it will prevail.